Leaning on your own understanding, holding fast to the false images and beliefs is not renewing our mind, it’s reinforcing what you think you know. It’s not even close to “dying to self” that we ought to do. We should decrease so He can increase!
When we renew our minds, we release our beliefs and understanding so that we can see that Elohim’s will and ways are perfect. We lean on His understanding through His Holy Spirit. Should we not make every attempt to be perfect as He is perfect? After all who doesn’t emulate their parents? How much more so would we want to emulate our Creator?
“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you prove what is that good and well-pleasing and perfect desire of Elohim.”Romiyim (Romans) 12:2 TS2009
“In other words, do not let yourselves be conformed to the standards of the ‘olam hazeh. Instead, keep letting yourselves be transformed by the renewing of your minds; so that you will know what God wants and will agree that what he wants is good, satisfying and able to succeed.” Romans (Rom) 12:2 CJB
“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” Romans 12:2 KJV